Therapy Thursday # 13: How to Accept All the Clownery You Can't Change

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TOPIC: Radical Acceptance - taken from Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. 

WHEN TO USE: When you're having trouble experiencing grueling, painful realities. I used to use this to mourn and move on from breakups. Try this to soothe any trauma such as the passing of a loved one, acceptance of an addiction, change in health, or realizing you need to seek help. You can also use it for less-pressing situations like, "fuck, I really need to do my laundry." The possibilities are truly endless. 

HOW TO USE (With Examples): This worksheet below explains the step-by-step process to radically accepting your shitty situation. You can print out a million copies and fill them out over and over again for as long as it takes you to accept the issue at hand. I like to fill it out once, and re-read it for days/weeks/months until I'm good. You can def screenshot this and mark it up on your device or even write the answers on another piece of paper. I'm sure you already figured that out but whatevvvs. 

 This is a scan of a poorly-photocopied printout I got from my old therapist years ago. Pardon the undulated psychedelic format. Pretend it's vintage. 

This is a scan of a poorly-photocopied printout I got from my old therapist years ago. Pardon the undulated psychedelic format. Pretend it's vintage. 

WHY IT'S LEGIT:  Anything that gives you concrete directions on how to deal with life's bullshit is gold. I am in love with step 5; the different methods in which you can push yourself to radically accept. They fuggin' work, I swear. It's painful, it takes time, but you will thank yourself in the future for facing what once seemed impossible. 

ABOUT THERAPY THURSDAY: Join me every Thursday on my Instagram story (@domjoellehaikel) as I share with you a new tip/trick I learned in therapy over the years. If you can't catch the stories in time, look out for written recaps like these or on my saved Instagram stories. (Except, I accidentally deleted this particular story - so this written recap will have to suffice). 

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